A New Path - I just left my wife

[chatterbug]

now to get it in writing as quick as possible and signed.

[tpc1977]

That is the plan.

I'm going over there now. I plan on writing things down that we agree on. I want this to be fair and civil. I do not want to have to force her into anything or drag anyone through the mud.

[chatterbug]

Yep be a gentleman.

[Starsky309]

Absolutely.

[kml]

Tpc - don't write out any agreements until after you have obtained legal advice for yourself. No point in giving away something that you might have been legally entitled to. Get some legal advice first, THEN approach her. But I do agree, get her to an agreement soon, while she's still amenable.

[tpc1977]

Spoke with the lawyer. More questions than answers - mainly about our daughter. I really want this to go smooth and easy and hurt no one in the process.

My wife thinks I'm moving too swiftly. I think she has had enough time to decide whether or not she wants to be married to me. She chose not. But she says this is what we do need to do.

I feel like a speck that she just flicked away. She basically rolled over and gave into this guy. Now the 15 years we had means nothing. She apparently built more in the last several with him to make up for it. Man, I feel like $&*!.

[DaddyLongShanks]

Spoke with the lawyer. More questions than answers - mainly about our daughter. I really want this to go smooth and easy and hurt no one in the process.

My wife thinks I'm moving too swiftly. I think she has had enough time to decide whether or not she wants to be married to me. She chose not. But she says this is what we do need to do.

I feel like a speck that she just flicked away. She basically rolled over and gave into this guy. Now the 15 years we had means nothing. She apparently built more in the last several with him to make up for it. Man, I feel like $&*!.

Try to understand where her mind is at. The romantic buildup and how she see's it. The more time she spends with him, the less she's thinking about you.

[chatterbug]

Moving quickly forces you to get your protection legally binding.

Control of your life.


At odds with the master plan.


Did you not know that you were to just give it all up.


She has only spent half the marriage being with someone else.

I can understand why she is so surprised about all this ....

[chatterbug]

ahh ment a fifth of the marriage... edit button

[tpc1977]

I think I've been going about this the wrong way. I've had too much contact with her. She seems to be using it to her advantage. Cake eating. So I'm going black and doing what I need to do with the kids and such and not having anymore contact with her.

I'm doing what I have to do to get the legal separation done speedily, but fairly. If I have to ask her anything then it will be text or very brief conversation.