Lost and need some guidance Part 2

[Denver_2010]

Or I could just make her sweat it out a bit while I continue to prepare myself...

Personally? I don't do this on her terms.

With all due respect to Chatterbug, I will attempt to mind read here. Yes, I do agree that this is a futile effort. However, I think that sometimes when we are deciding our next move, we need to try and figure out what move our opponent is trying to make. I like to play Risk. I kind of find some similarities. Kinda kidding. LOL...

I think that her text "Wow... yet again" or whatever says two things:

1) She is wondering wtf decisions that you have made and is frustrated that you didn't agree to talk to her about it immediately ON HER TERMS. So, she is trying to bait you.

2) It may have been another play on this "you don't fight for me" theme.

Regardless, I would advise not biting.

A very common trait amongst WAS's is that they want to control everything. They get frustrated and even angry when things do not go their way. Many times, IMO, this is the result of feeling like they never had any control and never got their way during the M. That was certainly true with my W.

The LBS has to put a stop to the WA having control over everything. She will run over you if you allow this ALL of the time. As Starsky likes to point out, she will begin to lose respect for you. Either consciously or subconsciously.

I believe that you have an opportunity here to turn this around a tad bit.

Her interest is piqued. But she still believes that she has control and can get you to ACT on her terms.

She didn't want to do it on your terms because that's not how she has it drawn up.

I would respond with a simple:

"I'm pretty much booked with friends and family while I'm up there. We'll have to talk another time. Talk to you soon."

This time, YOU use the 'talk to you soon' line. Maybe we'll get her wondering when she's going to hear from you, and NOT the other way around.

Make sense?

She will be frustrated with you, and may even be angry. So be it. Like I've said before, you are going to have to expect some of that as this progresses. It's a result of what I talked about above... realizing that she is not in control of YOU and your actions and choices.

I also want to remind you that such emotions are actually good signs.

If she didn't care, she would wouldn't worry about what you have to say.

Denver