Just a couple "time frame" things I always have to remind myself:
-"average/typical" length of affair (emotional or physical) = 6 to 12 months
-"average/typical" time it takes a marriage/partners to "fully" recover from an affair = 1 to 4 years
-"average/typical" length of mlc = 3 to 5 or 7 years
This is just compiled from this forum, many books and websites. I get impatient sometimes, remembering the above helps me calm down and have perspective...
Main thing, H has to re-learn how to respect you, so keep going with what you are doing in stopping it and setting boundaries.
H is going to be confused for quite a while, plus add in the job sitch of his, layoffs coming, stress, etc...it is possible that his lack of libido has little to do with you. When I worked at a fotune 50 corp years ago, it was sooo bad there, I had NO libido, at all...nothing to do with W or anything "home" related...and I am usually pretty darn amorous.
T^2
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