I've read his needs her needs, but not the 5LL specifically. But I did read love busters which is probably where I needed more help than anything. Not that I can't use help in every area, but when I read Love Busters and realized how often I was shooting myself in the foot, it really wouldnt have mattered how much I was doing right b/c I couldnt have built up enough good feelings to overcome the bad ones I was creating.
Denver, its awesome to hear that you listen better and she makes it known more clearly now. Im hopeful one day i'll be here saying the same thing b/c I know that clearly thats the key to understanding, and obvioulsy no one gets married and wants to make their spouse unhappy. I want her to be happpy, I want me to be happy and I want to be happy together and I dont think any of those are or have to be exclusive, but so far we've acted like they were, and I certainly think that at least right now she thinks they are.
