Month 3 no movement

[Denver_2010]

I do agree with that part Denver, from her perspective not only did she tell me, but she told me over and over and over. Its unfortunate to say the least, but that part is done, as is the part of me 'thinking' I knew this or that. I was/am a failure at communication, but im getting better all the time.

I remember having a professor tell us once that a persons perception is reality, at least to them it is. So her telling me what she needed was/is reality to her.

All I can say is im not living in that period anymore im going to let the past be the past and move forward as a better man, hopefully she wants to get on board at some point.

Perception IS reality! YES.

Do move forward and let the past be the past. But learn from the past mistakes for the future.

My W and I had the same problem with the communication. She told me over and over that she was not happy. I either didn't listen, or I didn't understand how bad things were.

NOW? I am ultra vigilant in trying to understand where my W is emotionally. She on the other hand, has learned to communicate more directly.

All of this is a result of both of us learning from our past failures.