Thanks suppo: Your a real encouragement and I appreciate it. I know that part of my problem is not having a PMA, but im working on figuring out how to have one always. Glad your able to remind me and I will hold on to that crumb from last night and enjoy it for what it was.
So yours is similar to mine in the fact that she's really doing the NC thing. Other than texts about kids we went 2-3 weeks at a time with absolutely nothing to say to each other. I gotta remember that as well b/c she's at least changed some in that regard.
Honestly, I do like the occasional contact with him, but I also know that I need to keep my thoughts about it all when it happens focused on me. And what its doing to me. . . .[/quote]
Honestly, I do like the occasional contact with him, but I also know that I need to keep my thoughts about it all when it happens focused on me. And what its doing to me. . . .
I am getting it Starsky!! Dont give up on me anytime soon.
Yep -- "know," not "feel."
GOOD JOB!!!!
Starsky [/quote]
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
Thanks suppo: Your a real encouragement and I appreciate it. I know that part of my problem is not having a PMA, but im working on figuring out how to have one always. Glad your able to remind me and I will hold on to that crumb from last night and enjoy it for what it was.
No worries Brother! I am here for everyone!
So yours is similar to mine in the fact that she's really doing the NC thing. Other than texts about kids we went 2-3 weeks at a time with absolutely nothing to say to each other. I gotta remember that as well b/c she's at least changed some in that regard.
You are correct! She hasn't really contacted me either. Part of it is due to me being out of town, i'm sure. But you know what, I have not really been concerned about it, because it has given me time to work on what I need to do internally without any distractions or backslide due to negative contact!
Feelings are kind of a pain in the Arse, aren't they?
Nah . . . they are what make us who we are. It's healthy to have them, and healthy to relase them when it gets overwhelming. The KEY, however, is to not make any DECISIONS based on them. It's imperative to do thinking, planning, executing.
Put more simply? OK to bawl into a bathroom towel at 2am, with the fan turned on so your wife doesn't hear it (true story of what I did in my sitch, lol). Just don't be drunk-texting your wife, or initiating R talks with her, during those times.
Put more simply? OK to bawl into a bathroom towel at 2am, with the fan turned on so your wife doesn't hear it (true story of what I did in my sitch, lol).
I think I was in the guest bathroom at the same time True story!
Just don't be drunk-texting your wife, or initiating R talks with her, during those times.
Oops, been there in the past & have done that! Until you woke me up on my posts & gave me some guidance! Haven't done since then...LoL
Ok. Im at work and need some help guys... Im working. And Im working hard. But my mind is wandering. Its Thursday. And I know the weekend is coming up, and X is without our son. A long weekend. A weekend where X asked me to keep our son an extra day to ride bikes. So Im wondering what they will be doing. And that they are really going out of town for the weekend to get to know each other better. My mind is totally over working itself. And rather me contact him - Im here. HELP me kick these thoughts out...
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
MrsD: I've been where you are right now, and even now feel things like that creaping up on me. Crap 6 years ago I would borrow cars that she wouldnt recognize from friends and follow her around. Trust me when I tell you that there is NO good that can come of that. You know their hanging out, they probably do have plans for the weekend...all you can do is accept it and keep going forward.
Tell me this, if he were to call you right now and tell you that they were going away this weekend and thats why he needed you to watch your son would it change anything?
