Denver: I agree with your sentiment, but i'll add that they THINK their telling us. If I say something in French and you don't understand French and so b/c of that you dont do what i've asked you to is that my problem or yours?
The first one I posted recently is the flaw in the golden rule....do unto others as you would have them do unto you....the flaw with that to me is that you should actually do unto others the way they wish to be done. At least if you want them to be happy.....i treated my wife in ways that would have made ME ecstatic if she would have simply mirrored them,
And you THINK that is how she wanted to be treated. You THINK that is what she needed to be happy.
Carnac - This is ALL a matter of personal perspective. One of the number one problems with all M's is that we fail to try and see things through the our spouse's eyes. From their perspective.
You cannot assume that what you were doing was making her happy or was the way that she needed you to be. Just as she should not have assumed that she was communicated the problem to you.
I disagree. She was telling you. From her perspective it was a perfectly normal and appropriate way for her to communicate to you. Her mistake was to realize that it was not working and to find a different way to communicate. Her mistake was allowing herself to give up.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
