X demands full custody because I'm now engaged

[mishka422]

Exactly kml.

Get her to send it in writing to you!

[SunFunOne]

True that - you can then see it, digest it and make decisions accordingly.

Barb

[sleeper]

She will NEVER put anything in writing. She is too caddy for that. I have managed to record a couple of ph convos but I won't replay them for her. She flipped out when she found I had documented something DS said. Her reaction was a combination of indignation that I hadn't told her earlier than I did and parinoia that I was gathering evidence to use against her. (the documentation was inadvertent when I was journaling but exists).

[kml]

Well - if you insist on limiting conversations to email, she'll have to put it in writing or shut up about it.

I would answer phone messages from my ex with texts and emails. Eventually he got the idea that I really wasn't going to talk to him on the phone, and started communicating by email. Much easier for me.

[sleeper]

I met with counselor X has taken kids to last night. I didn't know where to start so I began with day after engagement when X informed me she had talked to a lawyer and would be "taking full custody of the children", kids confusion, DS asking what "if mom had a gun...", X freaking out trying to twist his words around, questioning him to the point of tears, having him phone me and telling him what to say (clearly heard in the background) and finally taking kids to counseling (without informing me of TWO appointments).

Counselor basically tells me she can't talk to me about my children or be my therapist because she has already begun working with my children in the context of another "family".

Just had a call from X. Big spew. She wants to come in my house to get things she left her TWO years ago. I told her I done feel comfortae allowing someone in my home who is suing me but I would get any items of sentimental value her (I've already requested a list). She went ballistic. She then asked if I would tell her if I take the kids out of town. I responded if I take them out of state as per custody agreement. She went ballistic again.

Now threatening taking full custody, child support and says I will be served tomorrow.

And she doesn't understand why I don't want her in my home.

[AJM]

Um. Wow. But no.

Counselor basically tells me she can't talk to me about my children or be my therapist because she has already begun working with my children in the context of another "family".

Just had a call from X. Big spew. She wants to come in my house to get things she left her TWO years ago. I told her I done feel comfortae allowing someone in my home who is suing me but I would get any items of sentimental value her (I've already requested a list). She went ballistic. She then asked if I would tell her if I take the kids out of town. I responded if I take them out of state as per custody agreement. She went ballistic again.

No seeker. They are your kids to which you have legal access and rights to talk to their caregivers. If that therapist won't talk to you regarding the kids and cites that bulls* I would consider filing a complaint against the counselor with the certifying board in your area.

As for your ex. That is my worst nightmare that is. I would not give her anything of sentimental value. Consider it lost to her and likely that she has an alternate motive to be in your house.

Be safe and be smart.

AJ

[mishka422]

Oh dear heavens.

Have you retained a L yet? If not.....WHY? She is throwing some horrible threats at you and you need protection, NOW.

[MaMaMo]

I guess I'm paranoid Mary but her wanting in to your house after two years, right after trying to gain full custody has me thinking she might want to plant something illegal at your house.

She knows she has no grounds for full custody and now she grasping at anything to get those kids.

Please be careful. Its almost like since your wife to be has kids she thinks you do not need your own anymore like their replaceable items.

[sandycay]

My kids were in therapy and their therapist can't tell me what they talk about because of their ages either. Only if there was something critical to be addressed.

[sleeper]

I opened discussion w/C by asking her credentials. She told me she is a licensed family and child therapist. She is at an agency type of office that I suspect works with a lot of court related cases. They may have a very strict conflict of interest policy.

It's ironic that an action X says (not sure I totally believe her) was intended to promote mediation has resulted in more alienation and pain.

This is the second time I have been denied access to medical information and presence to care for my daughter. The first was when we took her to be examined following being sexually assaulted. "Fathers are not allowed", I was told. Many painful memories and emotions were resurrected yesterday for nought. The irony is, it has only made things much worse between X and myself.