Thanks for the quick reply Starsky and Suppo. I responded with "Okay. Well I'd prefer to wait and discuss in person, considering how important everything obviously is at this stage".
Your response: "Nothing that can't wait to be discussed in person, considering how important everything obviously is at this stage." -- and then AVOID any phone conversation, in my opinion.
Again, that's just me. If you DO decide to discuss this by phone, do it at a time that works for YOU. Don't play this junior-high game of "Well, what do YOU want to talk about??" ... "No, you go first . . " " No, YOU go first . . . "
(((rolls eyes)))
Ugh...
AT, AT, AT...
Patience... patience... patience...
I just checked on this post like 10 minutes ago and nothing was going on...
Now? all hell has broken out.
Take your time man. There is absolutely no reason that you should have even responded to her first text yet, let alone already had a second round of text exchanges.
PATIENCE
You should have waited a few hours to respond. Ran it by the board here and considered your response more carefully.
Every word that you utter should be deliberate and thought out.
Starsky's response to the cluster is as good as can be.
I would have topped it off with a good dose of "talk to you soon"...
You need to end this exchange quickly with something like that in appropriate context.
(facepalm)
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Well I believe I've pulled it back around now... She responded to my last text with "Ok, well i'm not sure how that is gonna be possible considering we don't live in the same city" and I responded with Starsky's whole original "I can help you move if you come alone." response.
Both you (Denver) & Starsky taught me in the beginning to only respond to kid related emergency texts! All others can wait a couple of hours, if not a day or two. And all texts/emails that have no meaning what-so-ever, other than a statement, need not be replied to!
That really sunk in with me when I heard that, due to the fact that my emotions would take control & I would respond too quickly & end up shoving my foot in my Arse afterwards.
Positive thing is that you have a month before she plans on coming down, so you have time to regroup & post here rapidly for thoughts/insight!
"I'm glad that you're making your deisions, as I am, too. Again, I appreciate the offer, but I don't feel good about you helping me move... I've got (Friend's name) and we can handle it. I'm trying to keep this as stress free and peaceful as possible for both of us."
I will not be responding to that text, as I've already screwed up enough and my emotions are quite positively in overdrive right now...
"I'm glad that you're making your deisions, as I am, too. Again, I appreciate the offer, but I don't feel good about you helping me move... I've got (Friend's name) and we can handle it. I'm trying to keep this as stress free and peaceful as possible for both of us."
I will not be responding to that text, as I've already screwed up enough and my emotions are quite positively in overdrive right now...
Actually, I would respond AT.
"That works. We'll talk another time. Have a great day!"
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
