Believe it or not my first thought when I considered taking him bowling is that she'll think im trying to be the Super Fun dad so he'll stay with me even more b/c its certainly not something I would have done before, but at this point, im not going to let what she may think of what im doing stop me from doing it. She can think anything she wants but I wanna do something with him this evening and if bowling is what we decide on then thats what we'll do.
If its not raining we're headed to a Jr. High football game, he's got friends on the team and I've got kids i've coached in the past on it so hopefully the rain holds off and we get to see them play. I'd also like to note that he has been wanting me to pray with him every night before he goes to bed and its been awesome, but to hear the sincerity in his prayers and the honesty almost brings me to tears every night. I actually think he may be teaching me HOW to pray.
Not to sound brute or harsh, but who cares if she thinks you are now the SUPER FUN dad as you state. These are all called 180's, changes, GALing, and things that you once wouldn't normally have done! Your supposed to have fun with your kids. Otherwise, what fun is being a parent?
Having coordinated prayer with your children is a GREAT thing to do & instill in them at a very young age. I was never anti-religion and have always considered myself to be a non-practicing Christian over the years. I think this had to do with the fact that my parents DIDN'T have prayer with us, or even take us to church for that matter. So I made the mistake of not doing this from the very beginning.
What ended up happening is: I pushed back on going to church with kids/wife throughout our entire M, and now that I have been saved & living the way I am supposed to as a Father & good Christian, my W is totally upset because she wanted that all along. This was not the norm for me throughout the realtionship, which I regret. But this is one of the 180's that I have done over the last 6 months. And I have to tell you, it has been awesome to say the least. I don't go around thumping people on the head with the bible, but the kids and I truly enjoy church, functions, & evening prayer. I regret not doing it sooner in life, but these are the kind of things that happen in your life that GOD reaches down and grabs a hold of you (slaps you & says wake up idiot, you are losing someone very special in your life). I am very thankful for that fact, because it has instilled in me some values that I never really lived by, and I think that is why the Lord allows us to go through these trials.
Ok, sorry, enough preaching!
Enjoy the time you have with your S and look at it as a blessing, because you never know what the future holds, or if you will get another opportunity. (The movie Courageous really drove that home for me)
