Thank you to all of you. Its great to have this support. Yes I have been playing the stalker and checking on everything. I have recently tried to stop doing this because assumptions make my emotions fly all over the place. I do have my concerns and have confronted her about one male. This was at the beginning of all this. She denined it and since then she has been upfront about there contact. There were some text's that I had found that I felt were over the top for this type of relationship. She apolized and told me then that she would keep all contact with him strickly business. I will say that I am still watching this very closely and I have noticed that she has erased messages from her phone when I know that they have been talking. She is helping this man with computer/billing work. I do not believe there is anything physical that has gone on but emotional affair is a high concern. Yes I am starting to exercise and do things for myself.
Then I would simply go forward assuming that your wife is having an emotional affair with this man, and proceed accordingly.
Would that (an EA or a PA) be a dealbreaker for you?
