I am already seeing that I am communicating with H in the way that I want to be communicated to, but I am not sure if that is what he wants/needs. I do not know if he would take the assessment, and we are not at a point where I would even ask.
Yeah, I think that's what we all take away from that book is that we try to force our own love language on others! He probably won't want to take the assessment, but you can do like I did with W, I just read the 5 categories to her and gave her a brief description of each and asked which she thought she was. But don't limit your demonstrations of love to that one category, you can focus on the one you think he is while still showing love in the other categories as well. That's the approach I've been taking, per DB I never say "ILY" to W because she quit saying it, so I'm showing it to her through the 5 languages rather than saying it to her.
