Punkin, Your posting sounded so much like one I would have written years ago about my xh, right down to the buttons not meeting the buttonholes. I felt the same way that you do right now, but had to accept early on that there was nothing I could do for him. I just don't get it...when there's another person involved and they don't see that the mlcer needs medical attention or change their diet. I use to think that my xh's new wife encouraged him to drink, eat a lot of fast food, etc., so that she could get her hands on his money, but I now don't think it's all her, but him.
Punkin, I'm glad you finally got the back pay settled and everything appears to be going okay for you now...please don't dwell too long on his appearance. I know it's awful and sad, but you did the best you could for him when he was w/you and that is what matters. You loved this man w/your heart and soul. I'm so sorry you had to see him like that.
Bea, I agree w/you...mlc is so very destructive and sad. I hope and pray that these mlcers will some day see the light and realize what a good life they had and then threw it all away.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
