HI sweet Dawn - how did your interview go? I hope you felt really good about it? Are you feeling better? i hope so
Why are those goals so hard...it's like your asking me to carve it in stone...and live by it or die
alright girl - that's quite the statement ^^^ want to explore that a little further?
why don't you write for me what is hard about each of the goals - i think i know where tat's coming from because i have the same thing going on.
what's hard about it is that each time we focus on something else, it takes us a teeny tiny bit further away from our spouses - an dthat is very very scary.
we are so tied in to saving the relationship that letting go feels like do or die. when we cling in some way to the r, we feel safer, and so that feeling you are expressing is the fear of the unknown
so maybe we should back up a bit and work on trust.
The more we TRUST that things will turn out okay, the more we trust ourselves and our growth, the easier it is to focus away from our ditches.
so how about you spend some time thinking about how you can trust, what it means to trust and how you can see yourself working towards that trust?
what will you be doing when you are trusting more? trusting that life will give you what you need when you need it?
what will life look like to you when you let go and just be okay with either outcome - how will you be? will you be calm and serene, will you appreciate all the good and bad in your life, will you have forgiven everyone and everything?
I want you to spend the next couple of days imagining what it you will do and waht you will feel like when those things happen.
and write down how you imagine yourself to be - just in general , or as specific as you can get.
and then from what you wrote - we'll formulate some goals for you.
do you see where i'm trying to go with this?
i'll try to check in everyday to see where you are at
right now - from where i'm reading it looks to me as if you are doing great - really well - you may not feel it, but you have made a lot of progress since we started, so keep encouraging yourself.
sometimes it's hard for us to see that we can't do it all overnight - and we jsut get there, one step at a time
you are taking steps one by one, very steadily - and that's more important than taking all the steps all at once
zig
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
