I have a sick & great sense of humor that is coming back as well, so don't be surprised if i throw a couple off-beat comments your way to lighten the mood once in awhile. Because IMO, if we can't laugh about ourselves & our lives then what is left to laugh about?
God Speed Freshman!
Thanks mate! I'm sure it'll come in handy more often than not. I'm glad you're doing so well.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
suppo: So im guessing you got back into town and your kids are with you again?
Thanks again for being so positive. I just read your post about losing yourself and that you used to care for others etc and man I can relate. Im working to regain my empathy and care for others, I got so wrapped up in myself that I rarely listened to anyone else talk. But its just not who I am...i've always been the guy that would gladly listen without prejudice, heck i'd even cry with you if need be. Im slowly finding him again, and im with you on the jokes thing.
I crack them all the time, but I noticed that most of mine had gotten mean spirited...put down types....im back to just cracking one liners and not trying to hurt anyone with them. My goal now is to build up all others...thanks for reminding me.
I also want you to know that I respect you don't post about your sitch much and understand why....but im here to support you as well so if you get stuck somewhere let me know and i'll at least give you my $.02
suppo: So im guessing you got back into town and your kids are with you again?
Nah, still out of town until tomorrow evening! Looking forward to getting back! Kids are supposed to meet me at Airport (I hope), cause they both told me last night how much they missed me & that wanted to be at airport to pick me up.
Thanks again for being so positive. I just read your post about losing yourself and that you used to care for others etc and man I can relate. Im working to regain my empathy and care for others, I got so wrapped up in myself that I rarely listened to anyone else talk. But its just not who I am...i've always been the guy that would gladly listen without prejudice, heck i'd even cry with you if need be. Im slowly finding him again, and im with you on the jokes thing.
No worries Bro! I enjoy getting back to the roots of who I truly am, which entails being there for others (wish I never lost that during my dark phase...LoL).
I crack them all the time, but I noticed that most of mine had gotten mean spirited...put down types....im back to just cracking one liners and not trying to hurt anyone with them. My goal now is to build up all others...thanks for reminding me.
FYI: Me too on the mean spirited ones! (Sarcasm kills) True jokes are humorous to all & does not involve personal attacks on somebody (something I got away from in my dark phase)
I also want you to know that I respect you don't post about your sitch much and understand why....but im here to support you as well so if you get stuck somewhere let me know and i'll at least give you my $.02
I will definitely post when something jumps out that I can't wrap my head around!! Thanks!! Just been very quiet lately, which is both good & SCARY at the same time. Peaceful but eery if you know what I mean? But I am trying not to analyze the current state of affairs & take things how they come to me. I don't want to go and start counting cards before the dealer shuffles the deck...LoL
I know that this is a simple text & I should be able to respond with an easy answer, but would like to field it for some perspective, so I don't put my foot in my Arse.
W: Did you pay the kids tuition yet?
Background: when W left, she made it clear to me that if the kids were to remain in Private school, that I would be responsible for 100% of the tuition. I said ok, no worries. She is the one that wanted them to be in Private school from the beginning. Based on where we live, I totally agreed. Financially it straps me, but I am not going to take the kids out of a school that they perform at fantastically & put them through more turmoil than they are already going through as it is.
I forgot to pay the tuition before I left to go out of town for work & contacted the school after they sent me an email to remind me. The bookkeeper said it was fine that I catch back up when I get back into town. (This is also the Private School that she now teaches at full-time starting this year, so I am sure someone mentioned it to her)
Based on my opinion of her stating that I would be responsible for the full tuition if they remained there, the bad side of me doesn't want to respond or just text back "I have it under control". But I know that isn't the route to go.
She probably does know and is trying to reel you into some drama. Since it is in regards to your children, you should respond.
Perhaps a simple response:
"I have not, however I did make arrangements to take care of it upon my return."
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
First of all, I don't know if she can really dictate whether or not you will be 100% responsible for the tuition to private school. A divorce court would probably have something to say on that. The best interests of the kids usually supercedes a WAS's selfishness.
Plus, I have a suspicion that she told you that knowing that you would not pull the kids out of private school. She'd probably have a fit if you said, 'okay, we're pulling them out and putting them into public school'.
But as far as your response to this text goes... I want to tell you to reply with "No. Have you?" But that would not be right. LOL
I agree with LITB. Something simple letting her know that you have it under control.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I am on the same page as you! I did however go with the exact text response that LITB recommended. She never responded back, so either LITB was right & she was baiting me, or she was just being a wonderful concerned W.
I highly doubt the second one because she magically texted & asked after I received the email today from the school about the tuition. But I knew from the beginning that is what she was fishing for. I just wanted to get a decent text to send back, because I would have gone with yours Denver & I have worked hard to not be sarcastic in my life these days.
We have to learn not to sweat the small stuff. There's enough in our lives that requires massive sweating.
Glad you've handled it as you did.
Cheers!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
We have to learn not to sweat the small stuff. There's enough in our lives that requires massive sweating.
Glad you've handled it as you did.
Cheers!
I totally agree with not sweating the small stuff, which is what I have done for the last 36 years of my life...LoL
I have been pretty good at handling texts etc. & not reading more into them lately...But I do have 2 questions that nobody will ever know the answer to unless maybe they were the WAS:
1.Maybe they are just as curious about how we are handling things as we are about them. I would take it as a good sign however, I know loads of people who've looked up old GF/BF on FB and it's just out of curiosity. Sometimes it means nothing at all. That's why we are always encouraged by the vets not to mind-read or think too much of what they say or do.
2.Probably walked out on Mr. Sandiego.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
