Originally Posted By: Mrs D
Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
Funny thing, people...

While they may WANT what they can't have...

They're "path of least resistance" creatures...

Meaning... they'll take what's EASIER...

but MIGHT...

put a little more effort into getting what is BETTER...

so long as it's not too high in the tree...

cool


Lol yeah well he has the "easy" right now... just not the better option. laugh


Exactly! cool

Let me ask you...

What... "problem"... do you find regarding having contact with your H?

I don't mean the fact that you get the butterfly feeling in your stomache, can't think straight... only think of him...

because...

that's "normal"... for people who are attracted to someone...

KEEP THAT ATTRACTION...

be more focused on changing what might be negative reactions...

what negative reactions are you encountering... in yourself...?

Again, your goal is to get back with your X.

With that goal in mind, everything you do other than becoming a better person (which is a positive and helpful) should be considered as, is it:

+ helpful
+ harmful
+ has no effect

If it is harmful, then stop doing it.

Harmful as in... it is pushing your X away...

Otherwise... no need to stop doing what's working. ie. what's bringing the two of you closer...