by what you have posted, Starsky, I, & others have recommended that you go NC so that you can work on yourself & your emotions. Because based on the pattern that you have posted, contact with your H has caused you nothing but confusion & pain.
Yes. That is completely appropriate.
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MrsD...
Here's the thing... N/C or not... eventually... you possibly will be like many WAS who... after getting what they want (separation / divorce / a new life)... they begin to miss what they gave up (where you are, now)... and then, they will try to get back with the LBS...
and...
once the effort becomes too tough... too long... the tactics don't work...
they give up and move on... even though there's been connection with the LBS which is positive.
What I'm saying is...
Going N/C is great and working on you is great and...
Once you realize that you are better and your X is simply not a good person...
You will rationalize that you are better than that and you will move on.
I'm not trying to be fatalistic here.
I'm simply pointing out what we often see, regarding WAS who come here.
I'm hoping that you might be... the exception...
I have been trying to go with a "do something different" approach, for you...
See...
It makes little sense to me that... if you are getting the "PEAs" and your X is getting the "PEAs"...
