I am new to your sitch and I haven't read through all of the responses from others, but I wanted to comment on the snooping. You have to stop. Seriously. I know how hard it is. If you look through my posts from the beginning you will see that I had the same issue with snooping. Everyone told me to stop, but I honestly felt like I couldn't. It didn't do me any good to snoop, it made me more upset and it wasn't healthy.
As hard as it was I finally blocked him from FB and refused to snoop any longer. The truth is, snooping doesn't ever end up well. And you can't control what your H is going to do anyway, so why continue to punish yourself?
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