Thanks Snodderly.... I'm still laughing about the teething ring thing! LOL Well, in my opinion he needs to skip a little faster down the yellow brick road, and stop skipping backwards!!
Slight vent, it never ceases to amaze me how one day he can seem semi-normal and the next I am the evil one again! WTF? He just told me he used a box of my pasta and he would replace it. I just looked at him and said, I don't really eat much pasta. Then he said he opened a box of Irish Spring soap and realized it was mine, so he was sorry. It took all I had not to be like, really? Really? We are back to this?? Instead I said, I bought it for you, I don't use that kind of soap (which he knows) then I went back to getting whatever I was getting out of the fridge before retreating to my room.
He came back a few minutes later, knocked of course, and was holding a box of cocoa puffs, asked if he could open them (again, I bought them for him, I didn't point that out this time). I just said yeah, of course. Yet he had no problem downing most of the box of Honey Chex without asking.... I wish I had an MLCer rule book or something, this is all so confusing.
It's just been a day, my mother freaked out on me as soon as I got to my grandma's tonight too! I really think she's undiagnosed bipolar, or something. I haven't been on the receiving end of her crazy in quite awhile, almost forgot about it. LOL I can't handle anymore crazy people! I need a freaking vacation!!! Ok, I'm gonna go watch Big Bang Theory now.... have a pleasant evening all...
hrm, Your h really sounds like a child who is trying to "right a wrong". I see this in a friend's children. When they've done something wrong, they bend over backwards to prove they can be good, i.e., such as the asking of opening this box or that box or apologizing for tearing into a soap box. I wonder what he's done that he feels he needs to be this way w/you right now.
They tend to flip on a dime and maybe he warmed up to you and now he's backing off a bit. They do and say odd things periodically and if you aren't detached enough, they will suck you back in. I would just say, he's teething and doesn't know how to react to your nonreacting to him.
Yes, you had a day of crazy making behavior. However, the Big Bang Theory should have cheered you up a bit. I do hope your week is a good one for you. You've had your share of odd behavior this weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I agree with Snodderly...when I "busted" (walked in accidentally) W webcamming before and after the "anger, alien spew phase"...she would be all sweet and like a girl trying to keep dad from getting mad about what she did...
When it happened during the anger alien spew phase??
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It's hard to tell what's going through his head. He's been ignoring me, not looking at me if he can help it, and talking very icily to me since Saturday evening, gee... time spent with the fam perhaps? They are all nuts anyway, so they aren't gonna tell him anything is wrong, in fact, they encourage running away. Whatever.
The last two nights he has done the dishes he used for dinner, strange, especially when they can go in the dishwasher, again, whatever. He was nice enough to wash my water bottles I use for work too, I did thank him for it and told him I appreciated it.
I went out to water the garden (or what's left of it at this point) when I got home and he was in the living room, the hose reel is out front, right below the living room windows, he yelled out to tell me he didn't get the mail. I said that's ok, I'll get it when I'm done watering the garden. I was normal and cheery speaking to him tonight. He seems slightly depressed, but seemed to get more annoyed talking to me. I didn't let him drag me down, he needs to deal with himself.
Then he said to me he noticed I paid the electric bill and it was a little bit higher, he asked if I wanted any money for it. I said nope, it's ok, I'll figure it out. He seemed irritated. I walked away and a few seconds later went back and said, well it would be very helpful if you could pick some things up at the store like milk, and some paper towels if you wouldn't mind. He said he would (pick them up not mind). Then seeming more irritated again asked if I could have a list for him. I said do you want it tonight, he said if you have time. I told him I would but I had a few things to do first (that's new for me not dropping everything to do what he needs).
So again, who knows what's going on in his mind, clearly he is fighting hard to keep us separated..... *humming we're off to see the wizard.... the wonderful wizard of OZ*
Oh and Snoddery Big Bang Theory was hilarious as always.
hrm, He's having an internal war w/himself. Also, he may have some resentment/jealousy towards you because you are going out and having fun and he's feeling miserable....but who's fault is that?
Your behavior is baffling him and he just doesn't know how to handle it. Keep up the good work!
Glad you enjoyed The Big Bang Theory.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
hrm, He's having an internal war w/himself. Also, he may have some resentment/jealousy towards you because you are going out and having fun and he's feeling miserable....but who's fault is that?
Your behavior is baffling him and he just doesn't know how to handle it. Keep up the good work!
Hrm, these day-to-day interactions you with your H make me grateful in many ways that my H moved out.
I remember him complaining about the way I folded the collars on his shirts and the creases in his jeans.
Even yesterday he said a cutting thing about a pic of me I showed him asking if it would make a good profile pic for FB. "yep, that's a typical pic for you -- light colored background that makes you look washed out."
But he took a good pic of me later which we used for that. It's back and forth, back and forth.
Sometimes I wish there was an MLC rehab facility and they could just go there and get straightened out after a few weeks so we wouldn't have to deal with it!
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I think my H is out of MLC (I get so confused sometimes), just now he's not in love with me, but "cares deeply." Although, he has been bringing up stuff from long ago, that I've completely forgotten.
... and the wheels of the bus go 'round and 'round, 'round and 'round ... lalalalala
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Yeah Snoddery, he's making himself miserable, clearly it's not me! LOL You would think it would get harder and harder to blame someone you are hardly around and then when you are around them they are always pleasant and kind no matter what shenanigans you pull... *shrugs* Also we are apparently back into not eating anything I bring home.... *rolling eyes* Who pushed the repeat button on this MLCer??? LOL
LOL Cadet!
reachingHigher~ I think I would have told him to fold them himself and WOW that's a really rude comment about your pic! Yeah it is difficult with him here, sometimes I wonder if it would be better if he did leave, but I don't really want that to happen, I may very well never see him again!
BeingMe~ My H said at one point he will always love and care about me, he just doesn't feel "that way" anymore, no emotional connection, blah, blah, blah. Then the next week, or month, I don't love you..... whatever....
Nothing really to report.... although his "effort to be more courteous to me around the house" has apparently run it's course. He won't even look at me much less say good morning or good night. Again, whatever. Almost time for Haunted Collector, oh goodie, I wonder what antique he will try to talk people into putting into his museum tonight! LOL
