As far as OM goes, I am not sure you can make someone reconsider an A or not?? I think that most times those things fizzle out on their own, or at least that is my hope. All you can do is work on yourself & be the Man/Father that any woman would want to be with.
Things fizzle out on there own... (sigh)... that's the ONLY way guys. You cannot force it, expedite it, will it to happen... Feelings for OP must be resolved by your WAS's before any R is possible.
A few other thoughts on your sitch...
Arsene - Lose the anger. 25 is absolutely correct on this. It is doing you zero good. IMO, anger is a symptom of being hurt. Recognize that. IMO, anger is a useless emotion.
You are only a doormat if you feel that you are a doormat. Trust me man, there were many, many times that I did things that other people would have looked at as doormat behavior. However, I quickly decided that I didn't give a F what anyone else thought. I did what I believed was best for me and my M. Everything that I did, every word that I uttered, and every decision that I made, was made deliberately towards doing what gave me the best chance at reconciling my M. Sometimes that meant that I had to eat a huge sh!t sandwich. In the end? I would not change a single thing. It was worth it. And it would have been worth it regardless of whether or not I saved my M, because even in May, when I thought it was over, I KNEW that I had done EVERYTHING that I could to save my M. And I was proud of THAT.
Hang in there.
Denver
P.S. Did you guys to decide to band together? Name the group? There is a good group of you here right now that can get a lot out of supporting one another.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
