MrsD: Work with me here, and im just learning to recognize this myself so im asking you to turn toward this mirror with me and see if we can figure out whats up. I hear you each day show up here and your up beat, positive, happy, confident and ready to take on the day and then by afternoon your back to this whiny sorrowful woe is me person. I hope you'll take that in the spirit it was sent in because I can assure you im talking to me as well. SO if thats true, then lets recognize it and figure out a way to overcome it. My opinion, well my opinion is that we wake up doing well, and we continue to do well for a while, then there's something that triggers us, a song, a thought, boredom, I dont know what and we start dwelling on how bad we have it.
Im learning about cognitive distortion ( I think thats what it is) with my therapist right now and it really is somewhat helpful to figure out what your 'saying' to yourself in your head and then find some rational response to it. Im not very good at it yet but i'll give you an example.....I think if my wife and I dont get back together that i'll never be happy again. Well come on, NEVER be happy again, sure I will, I was happy before we met....its gonna suck for a bit but i'll be happy again.
If my wife and I don't work it out im going to be broke forever.....again FOREVER? Im gonna be broke for a bit b/c of the business we own together and having to buy her out of part of it, but it will only be a few years and i'll be back to the level im at now.
Im sure I did that wrong, and im sure my examples suck and someone here smarter than me can help out with this, but my point is its in your head.....and the best thing you can do for a while when those thoughts come is to write them down and then look at them logically and rationally and see if the statements are even true. Typically this is probably where I would make a somewhat sexist joke about how hard that might be for you since your a woman and logic and reason are completely foreign concepts for women. LOL
I tell you what, you tell me your irrational thoughts here, and i'll look at them through un-tinted glasses and tell you why those things are absurd...maybe it will help us both.
