One more other thing: Cherish every single moment you spend with your family, loved them as always and do not portray yourself as a defeated person. Remember, the Lord made us pillars of our families and they (including spouse) depend on our strength to keep going.
Suppo, you are a blessed man. You have the opportunity to have your kids with you. In my case, I have no legal rights over SS13, and XW has forbidden me to have any contact with him. This is just a huge rock on the way.. I am just being patience for the Lord to remove it out of the way. I will see my SS13 when the Lord decides is the right time.