Thank you Kaffe Diem-I have read Sandi2's 37 rules and its very motivational.Defintely something I am practicing and will continue to do so. I have chosen NOT to focus on my H's OW & the "A" as it is draining and only upsets me. I've decided to place my energy into building a stronger and healthier me. Although tempting, no more SNOOPING, trying to persuade him or be overtly affectionate. We are in therapy so I will allow her to ask the hard questions. Thus far the sessions have been separate. Saturday will be our first session together. I will certainly keep the thread updated on events.
As for H, I am not sure if has discontinued the EA because I am no longer checking phone records & his secret FB. He is communicating more and trying to spend more time with me during which he is not in use of his phone or FB. He says he is trying so I will give him the benefit of the doubt and allow him space to do what he needs to do to end the A. I am puzzled on how long I should give him though. I don't have a "set" date in mind and figure I wait until I was done trying to DB but I have no clue when/if that will happen.
Me:42 H:38 M:15yrs DD:4/2012 H in PA&EA Current Status:H continues EA via texts & FB
