I will be the first one to raise my hand and say that I have caused some of these issues. My working to much and neglecting her over the years has not helped. I also have control issues that I was not aware of until the IC pointed this out. All of this and her feeling of not accomplishing anything for herself lately has pushed her into this black hole. You are all right about resentment and no expectations. No matter what I do or say it seems to make matters worst. I am definitely trying to do the 180 plan and no I am not moving out nor the bedroom.
