Ok, this is getting utterly ridiculous but I can also view it as an opportunity. I really feel I need to set some boundaries and try and make them crystal clear to W in a loving but firm way. Accuray, can you help me out?
I dropped the kids off with W this AM. I stuck around for about 5 minutes which is about 4 minutes longer then I normally stick around. I was fine while I was at her apartment but I was a wreck after I left. I gotta admit, I am not strong right now and I should start seeing an IC.
Anyway, W just texted me asking me to buy a certain video game for our son this weekend. It’s a game he really wants and W said “he won’t leave me alone and keeps asking me to get it for him.”
First of all, our son plays video games WAY too much. It might be allowed for extended periods when he’s with mom but not when he’s with me. Second, I don’t have the money and he has enough video games!!!. Wow, I guess my W thinks I am loaded or something, haaaa, far from it! When I emailed W the other day about seeing a financial advisor together she ignored the topic. She stinks when it comes to finances, I am not much better but I need to man up.
IMO, you don’t buy something for your child JUST to get them to stop bugging you, I feel that’s the easy way out but I am sure I won’t be addressing this point with W. I can just ignore the text or use it as an opportunity to voice myself.
