“For example, one of your principles might be that you are going to come up with a budget and stick to it. If there's an emergency you'll deal with it, but otherwise the budget is the rule.”
I was tested on ^^^^^ yesterday and I believe I made an error. For the first time since our separation W asked to borrow some money. It wasn’t a ton but every penny counts. Anyway, I don’t know what she needed the money for but I gave in and gave her the money and we agreed that I would subtract it from the 1,000 a month I give her. I don’t think that was a wise decision on my part because more than likely, she will ask to borrow again and I will deny the request and any consistency will be going out the window. In addition, she will be counting on it since I just lent her money this time and W will get even more frustrated. It all comes back to the consistency comment that Accuray just talked about. “Are you still working two jobs? Are you still looking for a job with more base and less variable?”
I work about 45 hours a week in my current FT job. When I took on the second part time job I thought it was just that, part time. My employer quickly bumped up my hours and within two weeks they had me working 40 plus hours a week. In essence, I was working over 85 hours a week. I had zero life, no sleep and it was difficult for me to stay focused for my day job. I talked with my boss that was my supervisor for my second job and I asked him if there was any flexibility in regards to the hours because I enjoyed the job but just wanted to work weekends and he said no, so we parted ways.
Currently I just have my FT job, I have a very tight budget and I am struggling financially but I am getting by. Since I feel there’s a decent chance I will get one or two good sized bonuses before the end of the year I feel I should at least give this job a shot through December and at that point reassess my employment situation.
