Hey K. Reading your posts, I'm reminded of an old saying, "This too shall pass."
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I don't get this at all. He literally licks the dirt off her boots, yet if I do anything out of line, he spews at me like no other!
Sometimes, people who have a lot of self-loathing look for "punishment" of sorts. Don't confuse that with your new found, treat 'em bad and they'll flock all over me book. That's fleeting at best.
Many relationships are about control at some level or another. What is described there is more of an unhealthy relationship. I personally think it would be a real shame if you came out of this and got into a bad relationship even if you were the agressor.
A while back (years now) a friend of mine and I were in bar. A pretty group of ladies came up to the bar and my buddy looks over and says, "hey, I know them. That's that group of hard-eyed women." Know what? He was right. I overheard their conversation and it wasn't pretty. Look 'em in the eyes, and they were BITTER, unhappy women. They had no trouble being hit on by guys though they clearly were more interested in abusing them. It was very evident. Watched that train-wreck for a few minutes and learned a very valuable lesson in what to avoid.
Do you want an unhealthy relationship? What does a healthy relationship look like to you? Before you answer, consider it is possible to be in a room full of people and be lonely. To be missing something in your life.
Just some thoughts to consider.
AJ
AJ,
Your right. The eyes say so much. Many of people fell for it, and never faced the fact of why it looks like that in the first place.
