Im kinda thinking I gave the wrong impression here.
Have any of you read excerpts from Why Men Love Bitches or Act like A Lady, Think Like A Man?
When I read the excerpts from the first book, then compared it to the one by Steve Harvey I saw alot of similarities in the overall theme of the book.
Quite Frankly I think Why Women Love Bitches was WAY TOO HARSH of a Title. The title makes it sound as if women just treat men like crap they'll get everyone they want.
What bothered me about it, is that the main idea I got was for a woman to command respect vs demand respect has everything to do with how she carries herself and interacts with people. You can be dignified, or you can go Gerry Springer on everyone and look like a monster. The latter is disgusting in my opinion.
For example: It's my goal to develop a better relationship with God and to study the word, and really learn about Jesus and to really look at how he was. How can I enrich my life by studying the teachings of Christ and apply it to myself.
For me, it would be very important that a potential mate be accepting of that part of me. Not to mock me, or make fun of, or want to run the other direction when I want quiet time to pray, or read on lessons.
If I were to find someone that did that, I have two choices. I can argue with them, tell them they are wrong, try to get them to see things my way, shove it down their throats and get mad.
OR I can simply be upfront and honest and tell this person that my faith and relationship with God, and how it can help my life and how I can help others by learning the lessons from Christ is very important to me. So important that if my beliefs are causing this person to be so uncomfortable that they feel the need to mock and make fun of, compared to accept and acknowledge this is very important to me then there really is no reason to carry on this relationship.
Now, does this make me a bitch for saying this?
Or does it make it clear to the other person that this is important to me, and it's my desire for my mate to respect and accept this about me? Therefore if this is going to be an issue, then we may as well clean the slate right now before it DOES become an issue?
This example is how I am as a person. This is how I handle the majority of any issues that come my way.
And this is how I interpreted the books, which was learning to assert yourself in an assertive way without acting rude, inconsiderate, demanding and insulting.
