No, but that is starting to change. Because of her childhood experience she had low self esteem and was always afraid of being judged as a failure, so she avoided social interaction or trying new things as much as possible. She was always very critical of herself and would easily get discouraged and give up if things didn’t go quite right. Then she would avoid those situations even more in the future. I’ve always supported her and tried to build up her confidence, with very limited success. Early on we started doing everything together, and didn’t spend much time with others. This allowed her to remain in her comfort zone. (and I now see allowed her to fall out of love with me) Now she is starting to do more stuff, but doesn’t want me to join her. She wants to be independent and "discover who she is".
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Time to shake things up a little.
Agreed. But it's hard because now when we do spend time together things feel awkward, as neither of us are as comfortable around each other as we used to be. I want to show her the world, but she's backing off. Recently, I planned a boat tour for us to go on together. Her concern was "I don't know what we would talk about for that long"
The way I understand it, people in a MLC are searching for meaning and purpose in their life, and until they find it they will remain unfulfilled.
What are the odds that we can turn this around and be lovers again? The long running stories in the MLC forum sure don’t seem to offer much hope. I'm 8 months in now. Thanks.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
