Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

My wife went to IC last night. She seemed to be consumed by her thoughts all night. It hurts so much that she seems to be going to great lengths to avoid me. I hope that she gets some clarity from this IC. She has agreed to go to MC and we are going to go tomorrow. I feel as if she is just going to make me feel better but I don't have many options. The few close friends and family that I confided in about all of this keep telling me that she is not acting like herself. She is not the person right now that we all know she is. She is so lost and confused and I wish I could actively help her. But I know that the best thing I can do right now is to DETATCH... even if that apparently allows her to grow an emotional relationship with this OM. I am doing my best to work on myself and I get better everyday and more comfortable with who I really am and not the person that I had become. At first I had to make conscious efforts to stop from being anxious and snippy but it is coming more naturally now. I will continue to work on ME regardless, but I sure could use her help.