Divorced #3

[Mrs D]

I fear letting him go because it seems that its what I had done while we were in a relationship. I didnt make him my number one. Something in my mind tells me if I act as if I dont really care what hes doing, Ill lose him further. Im afraid of not letting him know what I am doing when Im doing stuff because thats what I had done before. I just want to do whats right, you know?

Clinging, suffocating fear is NOT attractive to a man. I can assure you. A strong, confident woman who WANTS me -- if I ever find myself available again -- but doesn't NEED me . . . is very sexy and attractive.

Most men don't dig "needy." (and nearly ALL women don't).


Starsky

Yes, I do know this Starsky. When H was trying to win me back, it was a huge turnoff. Thats why every morning, I say to myself - no contact. He will come to you. You know this. And then something happens that sends me spinning. BUT - as of Monday, I have had no contact with him. I think Monday still ended on a very good note. Yes I made the mistake of saying something about the concert, and I soon as I said it - I wanted to crawl in a hole so to speak. LOL And I promise to you, and to myself, no more embraces. He can come to me if he wants one.

My first post this morning is I was feeling more confident. More postive. Im going with the dont give a crap attitude regarding his whatever he is doing right now. Im in a good place this morning. And thank you for helping me keep in that line. I do so appreciate you Starsky! STarted reading your story last night bacause I know you and Denver have had success.

Day #2 of no contact. I can do this.