suppo: What an inspiration you are this morning, thanks for that it not only gave me a smile, but lifted my spirits pretty good. When things seem unbelievably bleak that when we have to rely on God to carry us. It is why I said before that 'if' she does file im going to drag my feet as much as possible, and in my state that means I can stretch it out 18 months from seperation simply by fighting the grounds for divorce. Since there are no, no fault divorces here she'd have to file on general indignities or such since she couldnt file on infidelity or abuse, and the lawyer I spoke with said its virtually impossible to prove grounds in court so we stay seperated and wait out the 18 months.
Im still hopeful she won't file b/c it seems like it will be harder to come back from that, but im with you on the impulsive thing....if she gets a wild hair and files i'll just move forward as planned and continue the journey. I think I get a little more confident each day, and its awesome b/c for 5 of the last 6 nights my S11 has been staying with me and he talks like he wants to stay there all the time. Part of the reason is he doesn't have to get up so early to get ready for school when he stays with me, but I think its also b/c he and I are alike in that we're always on the go and have somewhere to be. We go to jr. high and high school football games and such anytime we have a free evening and her free evenings are spend sitting at home so he'd rather run with me than sit with her most of the time.
But no matter what the reasons are I think shes getting a real taste of what life may be like if she doesn't decide to at least try to work on this thing soon, she's going to have to face that one son is nearly grown and the other may be gone alot more than she thought because he wants to live with me.
Thanks again suppo, you kind of made my morning with all your positive thoughts. Your exactly right....we WILL improve ourselves and everything else will work out after that. God's perfect timing not ours.
