Originally Posted By: Mrs D
I havent spoke to him all day!!! Of course Im going to think about him all the time. I love the man!! Really? You dont think Im getting any better???


I think contact sends you spinning, MrsD. That's not a criticism -- just an observation -- but it's the reason why I tried to encourage you to let him go completely (even though you wouldn't be letting him go, and still holding on to your hope, which is FINE). I just don't think you're to the place, emotionally, where you can pull it off yet.

I would like to read more posts about YOU, and what YOU are doing to move on with your life. All I hear about is ex-husband, ex-husband, ex-husband.

Are you familiar with the Stockdale Paradox? It is the best framework I've seen for doing this whole "hope" vs. "brutal reality" balancing act that needs to be done. You might want to Google it.


Starsky


M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)