Freedomland Ahead

[WenikiTiki]

I went on Match and was also amazed at how many young pups contacted me. And bunches of folks trying to scam me.... I think, at least. I get crazy messages that say things like: "Haven't heard from you in awhile hun. Please give me your phone number so we can keep in touch." And I have NEVER been in communications with any of these people.....

I also had a female roommate of some guy who contacted me write me and tell me what a horrible person he was. The high point of her message was that he didn't trim his nose hair. The low point isn't repeatable here.

I have had coffee with 5 people so far. No one I would spend any more time with. I let the membership expire, I'm on OkCupid right now and that is where I met someone I went out with a few times.

Good luck and be careful.

[BeingMe]

Wow, Wendy. Interesting experience there.

As for me, I have disconnected my profile on Match. I'm chatting to one guy who seems really nice. He lives in the province next to mine, so is somewhat far away - 12 hours plus a ferry trip . In two years, I'll be moving to that area permanently, so it's probably good to have someone there, rather than be tied down to this area. Weird thinking, I know, but it seems logical to me. I go there for the summers and Christmas, so we can have that coffee date in Dec. if he's still around. It also gives me 2 years to get to know someone, if he can last that long. At this point, I'm not concerned about that ... more into uni brain now.

So, that's where my dating life is at right now. Not much, is it?

[BeingMe]

Still in love with my "stupid" H. Don't know why, but I'm eventually willing to give someone else a try after all these years of standing.

[kml]

Ah, BeingMe - it's tough, I know. Oddly enough though, now I wouldn't take my ex back for all the tea in China. It gets better.

[BeingMe]

Got our mediation package today. He's leaving next week, so I don't know when to make the appointment.

I told H about the online guy. No reaction. Didn't expect one ... just told him before the credit card statement came, and I like to be open and honest.

[forward]

Being,
Even if you've stood for a long time (as I did), you can take your time with the online dating.

[BeingMe]

Yes, I will. There's no point in rushing.

[BeingMe]

Last night I told H that he had to leave. He travels a lot anyway. But, I'm not going to be his "friend" anymore (that's what he thought I was being ... WTF). He comes "home", I pick him up/drop him off from the airport, he eats what I make very happily, drives my car, I have to tip toe to not wake him up when he goes to bed, we spend time with other friends together, but he is not interested in me, in what I do (how is that being a friend to me?). So, I said I am sick of him treating me as if I'm inconsequential. Damn it, I am somebody ... I am the mother of his children, a friend and lover for 19 years of our 26 year marriage. We've moved two continents with our family together. And he thinks we're just friends, and he can go and date, and tells me it's not my business. Well, I thought, he can leave and then it will all be his business. Except, our finances and children. That is MY business.

He is such a manipulator, and can use our situation to his own advantage. But, no more. I may love him, but I'm not stupid. He's gone now, on his motorbike (which he thinks he looks so cool on) to check out a place to move. He left with a sad face, hoping I'd change my mind, but no, I won't. The situation couldn't continue like this.

[job]

BeingMe,
You had to do what feels right for you. By you stepping up to the plate you may begin to see a different side of him. Just hold on tight because your ride may get bumpy in the future.

Now, please take care of yourself.

[BeingMe]

I expect the bumpy ride. And I do intend to take care of myself once this nausea in my stomach recedes, and the headache goes.