Sometimes it seems like things are rushing forward due to their actions or the circumstances at the present moment. I think that somewhere inside like Denver said awhile back; that they feel they will lose their nerve if they don't pursue things in a rapid manner. But that is mainly because they are not thinking straight.
Starsky had stated in an old post to me, that you never know what is going on in the Wayward little head of theirs. I am not trying to quote the heck out of our Veteran mentors on here, but I think that a lot of it makes sense. I have made decisions a lot in life rather quickly without truly thinking things through & the ramifications involved in that decision. Sometimes it worked & sometimes I crashed and burned like Maverick did in Top Gun!
Communication stand still is not necessarily a bad thing!! It is better than taking a huge leap backwards & it may also be giving her more time to think about things.
To give you an example: Unfortunately my Sister is going through the same thing right now with her H, and to avoid all of the details; they both rushed out & lawyer-ed up to get it over with vindictively before they lost their nerve. Funny thing is, they started this process 18 months ago. Neither of them have pushed their lawyers to move forward, and even though they have a few ups & downs still; they communicate better now than when they were M for the last 14 years.
Not necessarily the greatest example, but it does show you that God's plan doesn't necessarily have a timeline that we can gauge.
I know that I don't know you personally, but for some reason my gut is telling me that you and your W will make it. This may entail an actual D in the process, but as my IC states: If she had a nickel for every couple she has seen that gets remarried to each other again, she would be rich & retire
