No, the other site sure doesn't seem to be, at least not the group he's found himself surrounded by...A lot of working on ways to move on...forgetting the marriage.
Things I told him when I left: I wasn't sure I was ever in love with him, that we never should have gotten married and that the idea of us in bed together made me sick to my stomach - to name a few of the "worst".
Each has their own "reasoning", none of which really matters. For as true as I thought it all was then, while in my 'fog' and R burnout - I know the opposite to be true today.
I've always loved him, to the point of even too much, when it isn't any more healthy. And of course, there were days I could've loved him more. Like the day of his grandmother's funeral. After the funeral, H invited some family & friends to our place to get together. My 'problem' was that I had a previous commitment, that I placed more importance on than my H & family. I went to my meeting and missed the whole party/reunion celebrating a wonderful lady's life...
I loved our wedding day and every day before and after. A few conversations leading up to it had me wondering if he knew and understood the real me, but it was never enough for me to doubt the commitment we were making to each other! I still see the picture in my head of a photo from when we first saw each other that day. Still makes my heart melt.
As for the sex, it wasn't "fun" anymore - it felt like work or an obligation. We are both to blame for that and have proven recently that it doesn't have to feel like that...It can be fun again
