KG your strength is so inspiring. You know what you need to do, just keep picking yourself up and trying again. Never stop. Don't beat yourself up for being human, but just keep learning and trying.

I'm like you. I've wished on two birthday cakes' candles to stay married (oops hope that didn't jinx it) but I don't know that'll be my wish next year. This is about more than just your marriage, even though when you started you thought that was ALL it was about.

Take care,

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.