Hi to all Yes I am working on my responses. My husband has been picking at me for something everyday sometimes more than once. Sometimes it's for absolutely insignificant things. So one of my responses was, when my h was being ridiculous, "I have already answered your question" then I clammed up and gave him an angry look then let it drop. He shut up. Same thing today got mad about his laundry and these ratty shorts that got a few shades lighter because according to him I put my dark shorts in with em. I said something like How do my dark shorts make your darks shorts lighter? He said something else and I stopped talking, turned away and he dropped it.
These behaviors are what had me unhappy before the affair and why I got so upset that I said something about divorce in the past. I felt very disrespected and unloved. So now he see's the OW at work and he is cold as far as affection and no sex for over two weeks now. He says he is lakadasical. I am not caring as much any more. I am seeing a short based therapist who I like. H will not see him.
Here's one for ya, my pastor said we should pray together. My h doesn't want to and won't say why. Then he tells me about a guy he met at some convention who was a great christian who he heard was sick but didn't know the details. I said well maybe you should ask a mutual friend if he needs your prayers and my H said "yes, he wouldn't even have to ask, of course I would pray for him" I said "then why don't we pray for our marriage?" No reply. I asked him if he prayed for us and he said well...yeah. Right. How does this compute when H says he wants to work on the marriage and won't go to therapy, pray, be affectionate or kind? We still talk at night but he always has a complaint. My kids thought he could be a better dad but they just accept that he is that way. They tell me they won't be like that to their kids.
