Hey jb - good to hear from you. I check in your thread daily to see if you stopped in. I am rootin' for you.
It sounds to me like you are where I was back in May. I felt like I gave up and in return, my detachment was probably noticeable to my W. It wasn't my goal or intention, but it was what it was. I even went on a couple of dates, and to be honest, it felt great.
Even though we did end up back together, the experience taught me that I was going to be fine no matter what happened.
You are doing great, hang in there my friend.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012