I think, Sleeper, you are on to something. I think you are likely right that she does want the time to herself. For what reason though? Make up for lost time? To show she is better? To relive her own childhood? To assuage her guilt? To fill in the time when OM is not going so well? I haven't a clue. Could also just be she is reacting to her mothering instincts and is trying to reconnect with the kids she walked away from.
I often think those same of my ex. Then she pulls a stunt (currently not treating my son very well for no apparent reason. I don't pay much attention to her, so really couldn't say what her issue is. She did recently get remarried to OM so maybe distracted?). But mine tries to pull the kids as well. Like you, I won't have it. Money etc make no difference to me compared to my kids and their well being.
Yes, my oh my how things have changed. Try to remember that as you deal with the situation. And be sure to check with lawyers regarding her ability to fight for full custody. Find out what it would take in your state. Most states don't allow that any longer, but it's a good idea to know what the possibilities are.
Oh, and let the rest go. It's annoying and will affect your judgement if you let it. It's a distraction to annotate in your log so you can present factual evidence later if needed.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
