Last real contact I had with H was about a month ago. He stopped by to see me at work. Nice time. He seemed to agree to MC, we were intimate at his initiation and he dropped me off at the airport for a trip a few days later. Haven't heard from him since except a short text about paying a bill. Figure it's part of the distancer/pursuer dynamic somehow. I really don't know.
Anyway, Retrouvaille is coming up in our area (about 2 hours away by car) in October and it is the closest one to us and the only one offered in that area this year and I would like to ask him to go. He seemed to agree to counseling again last time we spoke and I have mentioned Retro to him before and he wasn't crazy about it but think that he would go if I asked him and if I couched it in such a way that he knew he would not have to share in front of the group and as a way that we could move forward and make a decision about whether to divorce. Trouble is since we are not having much contact, I don't know how to do it. Do you think sending him an email would be OK? What should I say? Is it better to do it in person? I can't decide and want to give it the best chance of getting a positive response. Any help would be appreciated. Love you all.
