And not to pile on b/c I certainly understand where your coming from with all of this b/c I was exactly the same way and at times I still am, but your spending entirely too much time and energy thinking about him and her and not about you.
There was a great post on here once and I can't rememeber who had it, but the gist of it was if your thinking about them, and their thinking about them, then who is thinking about you? Since they're going to be thinking about them, you have to think about you or no one is.
