MrsD: I truly believe that even though people have free will, if asked God certainly can and will help. I also have to tell you I think its pursuing at its finest and the bad part about it is the part I think your missing is not what your saying, but what he's hearing. When you do those things all he hears is you go do whatever you want and i'll be plan B in case you wanna come back. Don't get me wrong, that may very well be true, but he can't know its true. I know it seems like alot of game playing and trust me im with you im a grown man and have no interest in junior high games, but even if your willing to stand there and be plan B don't let him know that.
Im willing to wait as long as it takes for my W to begin working on our relationship, but she cant think for one second that im just gonna sit around and wait until she does. Thats what GAL is about, its mostly for yourself, but it also shows that your a strong confident beautiful woman who does things and if he's not careful you'll meet someone while doing those things that appreciates you and then his chance will have passed. We all struggle with it, but you undermine yourself with just a simple line like that, even if you didnt 'ask' him to go, the fact that you said he'd be your first choice means that he comes before your friends and anyone else in your life and that not only allows him to leave you at plan B, it also pressures him b/c he has made it clear that at least for now he doesn't want that position.
