Had about an hour talk with W last night, which was pretty productive. She basically told me she was starting to come around until I acted like an idiot the other night, and it put her back at square one. No surprise there, but I am surprised she told me so plainly. We also discussed the argument the night before, and she basically said we agreed with me, but didn't really want to talk about it at the time. She also told me, and this is the big one, that I have done more nurturing to our marriage in the last month with the apologies than I had in the 15 years prior. Talk about the apologies having a big impact! She said it wasn't the apology as much as it was the fact that I was letting my walls down and letting her in.
W's b-day today. I started with breakfast in bed and for this evening, I planned a scavenger hunt around the house with a gift and a choice of vacation (not sure she'll take me up on it, but what the heck). Looking forward to the hunt....I've done this a couple of times over the course of our marriage, with the first one being on our 1st anniversary. The prize then was a cruise, so hopefully today brings back some good memories.
The final clue (which refers to a surprise renewal of our vows in Hawaii on our 5th anniversary):
A secret plan, With intent to wed Ended not in a church But on a beach instead
We have a picture on our mantel of us on that beach. Behind the picture will be the prize. Hoping she enjoys her day and she's reminded of some of the good times we've had along the way.
