Married in November 2009. We started our relationship with crisis after crisis, literally from a strike at my job, to emotional problems with her oldest daughter which have mostly gone away thank God above, to the death of my dad, the near death of hers, my working two jobs to get her through college and mostly being a single income family where she felt trapped in a house she hates, literally.
I found evidence of an emotional affair on her phone and kicked her out that minute, a couple of weeks prior she had been talking about leaving. Made sense after I found out. But we had communication problems, lots of them. She said I rarely talked to her and that she had big expectations for our marriage that I never knew about, although she said she told them to me time and time again.
I've done some insensitive things, no doubt about it, but I didn't realize they were at the time. Had no idea until she brings them up in discussions much later.
So today we've been separated two weeks. I have my first coaching session with Chuck tonight. I've read DB and a laundry list of other books. My counselor has been a big help, she is seeing a psychologist, she told me she's practically begged him to tell her how to fall in love again but he has been less than helpful in that regard.
This week I have my D16, adopted by me. She texted me that D was at my house, so I texted back thanks and if she had groceries for supper tonight. She said she did and had a little child support money left until payday. Then she texted me that I confuse her and she doesn't know what I want.
