oh - i'm reading it again - and what pops in my mind is my reaction in it - over compensating?
am i on the right track
Yes.
Also, read the last post I made in Inga's thread. The bit about her role "being busy", being her choice... and her H's role of hanging with his buddies, which is his choice... and neither of those choices are bad choices...
It's expecations... Inga's expectation that her H SHOULD be getting busy fixing the main light in his D's room or taking his D to piano lessons... and her H's expectation that if he doesn't do something about it, she will...
You indicate that giving your S his meds when he was younger was par for the course. Now... you panic if you trust your H or your S to not stay up to date with the meds, because you know they won't...
Imagine if your S had diabetes...
I know a few mom's who probably had many mini strokes as they've had to "let go" of their children to take care of their own diabetes...
And... these kids... they figure it out...
So how do you get yourself out of this possible double bind, Zig?
