this is such a interesting and topical discussion for me.

thank you for your thoughts and insights. detaching from our expectations of them, is really one of the hardest things to do. indeed getting out of their way to be the best parent they can e is also scary and makes me realize again how my control issues were getting in the way of Hs parenting as well.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home