What I'm about to write should shock no one: I totally overreacted to tonight's call.
She ended up chatting about mundane stuff... A situation with her and her sister, her job search, and the pending divorce of her best friend...
I WAS able to check off 100% of my "goals" for the conversation... Didn't interrupt, no R talk, no judgement, no reactions, no getting upset, no crying...
However, I couldn't bring myself to bring up the point of conversation I've been chatting about on these boards... but I had a couple drinks before I picked up her call... So I didn't feel like it would be the best time... plus I'm not sure i'm mentally ready to deal with that at the moment... but after tonight's call... I KNOW I need to get there.
I can't keep being "here" for her... to let her unload her heavy, deep personal problems on me while I sit here... knowing she's with OM, getting 50% of her "needs" met and calling me for the other 50%...
Maybe I'm stupid for not bringing it up tonight... And maybe I'm stupid for wanting to reach out to her best-friend (who's H has claimed he wants a D now) to help support her... I mean I love the girl too.. but I'm not sure reaching out to her is the best idea, except that I'd love to introduce her to the DB/DR community as I KNOW she doesn't want the D with her her H and I feel like I could help her... But...
Need to sleep this off... Too much whiskey will do this to a man...
