responding more fully now that i'm not on my phone - Brit you are right about him wanting me to make a bunch of allowances. Fortunately the temper tantrums that occur when I set boundaries seem to be getting shorter/less intense, and he's sticking to things - letting me know before he comes over, etc. I think you're right that he's trying to ease his guilt and discomfort here. When he's uncomfortable he just runs.
I'm so thankful that I've learned in this process how to identify my emotions and to figure out where they're coming from before I act. I feel like I'm on a much more even keel in my life, I can deal with other people's emotions so much better, and fewer things send me into a tizzy because I am better at taking things as they come. Ahhh (relaxed sigh).
