Being, Take your time. I spent several months doing nothing on there--just observing and making an occasional wink. I did not date while separated. This was actually a good thing for me. You've been at this on again/off again thing with your STBX for a long time, so you might be impatient. I found that after years of being separated, I still needed some time to grieve, but it wasn't the devastating thing that it would have been early on.
It was a long time to be alone, but I felt I was able to move to a good space sooner.
The other thing is, a lot of good guys don't want to date people who are separated. Would you want to date a guy who claims to be separated?
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
